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A safe space for Asian men to vent about their relationship problems!
2017.10.30 06:30 BakaHapaA safe space for Asian men to vent about their relationship problems!
Are you an Asian man or have any form of Asian ancestory (e.g. Biracial Asian, A quarter Asian, etc) who can't find a girlfriend or sexual partner even though you want to? Then this might be the subreddit for you! This subreddit specifically refers to Asian men as those of East and South-East Asian descent.
2020.09.14 17:45 gave2hazeAdvice? for someone who is considering adopting in the future
Hi guys, apologies if there's an FAQ i missed or if this isn't allowed or if i did anything wrong. Essentially just looking for a little advice as I understand pretty much everything to do with adoption can be controversial and I have 0 knowledge. I am still young (20) so not looking to adopt for a long time, but essentially I would rather adopt someone between about 5-10 ± 2 years, as I dislike the idea of raising a baby (from all the horror stories about waking up at 4am etc etc). In addition, i do not want to conceive (although my mind might change over time even if i don't want it to) so if I don't adopt I won't have kids any other way. My partner is a biracial female of African descent, so she knows how to do the hair and stuff. While it's not decided for certain, I personally would rather adopt a biracial kid who would look like they were naturally ours. Thanks for reading and any advice/feedback you might be willing to give
2020.09.13 14:55 susegandMoving to Goa cos I am a Goenkar from last janma.
Hello wonderful people, I am looking to move to Goa. I have lived in Mumbai and Bangalore for most part of my life. I am done with the city din, pollution and charade of the middle class life. My main area of interest is the arts - films, music, theatre. So I want to be located close to the art scene (Hindustani classical, Jazz, plays, lectures); close to the artist community. I also want to integrate with the local Konkani life and culture. I am fluent in Hindi, Marathi and Kannada; and am eager to add Konkani to that list. (Listening to a podcast called Susegad Danpaar to have Konkani fall on my ears) Proximity to the beach would be great but a quaint village over a touristy beach area any day. Most of my work is from home so I do need a strong wifi connection. Also need the occasional drive to an eatery, ATM, pharmacy, local grocery, a small hospital for any emergency. I will be living with my partner. We are an unmarried biracial couple. I do not want to be under the watchful eye of nosy aunties and retired uncles. Need a break from that. It is important that the neighbourhood is safe for women. I'd like to live in an independent house over a flat. (what would the rent be like?) I am planning to make a preliminary visit for a month this Nov to check out localities I might like. Hope COVID permits all this. What areas should I check out? Any suggestions or ideas with respect to anything would be of great help. Thanks. Mog Asundi <3 TL;DR: I’m a musician/filmmaker looking to move to a non touristy part of Goa. I’m open to suggestions about places that are close to an artist community and away from the hustle bustle.
Hello everyone, I am glad to have found this place, because I am getting to my wits end and so is my brother in-law. Our partners are a brother and sister who's parents have descended into the very cultish seeming Qanon. My mother and father in law have started saying pretty abusive and damaging things, even when the little ones can hear. I want to distance us but my husband thinks he can pull them back somehow and that what they are saying isn't as dangerous as I think it is. Had a long call with my bro in law and he is in the same position as me basically. There is also the added layer that while these parents and our partners are white, I am biracial black and white and my brother in-law is Nicaraguan. I open by saying I am not super close to my in laws, as we live on opposite ends of the country. I respect the love my partner has of them, and worked to have a decent relationship with them. I wanted our daughter to have a good relationship with both sides of her family. I know they were not very familiar with non-white people (based on their friends and where they live) so there was some tension when first their daughter and then son got involved romantically with non-white people. There have been some gaffs/microaggressions over the years and I know they had some racist tendencies based on the time period they grew up. But early in the relationship I did not find it viscous enough that I found marrying into the family a bad idea. I thought that with the family growing the way it is (all three of their grandkids being mixed) their views would change or their skills would improve. And honestly for a few years it totally did. They learned some words in Spanish and we celebrated Loving Day and it seemed they were growing. However in the last 2 years or so the comments and behaviors really started to get harsher and into really racist and abusive. I didn't know that much about it all until recently but now that I learn more about it, a lot of their phrasing and wording "I do my own research", "you are sheep", etc is clearly Qanon. They talk to us like we are stupid and not adults, when we are all honestly better educatedand having very successful professional lives that support their grandchildren. They seem to only be able to link conversations to this political conspiracy stuff and seem angrier and angrier whenever we have contact. It's gotten worse with the pandemic. It's not even remotely fun to speak with them anymore and I can tell it's stressing my kid out. I can tell it's stressing me out. My husband as well. On a video call with our daughter, my father in law in the same conversation told her that covid-19 was a hoax and that we were being sheep for not letting her play with her friends, but also called it kung-flu and said Chinese people were full of disease. Obviously after that call I had an age appropriate chat with my daughter to ensure she understands the truth and that it's wrong to say something like that about a whole group of people. Another time they encouraged her not to wear her mask and I believe conversations with them have helped fuel her sudden fear of being kidnapped. They also have said things about BLM (which my kid has been supportive of and interested in, as much as an elementary kid can), and implied negative things about the black side of my family and how my daughter is "lucky" that her culture isn't completely 'urban' because it helps her grades (?!?) It's like they can't even moderate for kid appropriate topics. She was trying to tell them about her online class project and they steered it into how schools are run by the deep state and this pandemic and mask wearing is some sort of cover for putting microchips in us. My daughter was so confused and feels like they don't even care about what's going on in her life. Again I am actively countering and talking with her about how they are saying things that are biased, but I do not want to continue to expose her via these calls. When I spoke with my brother in law and he also indicated that they have been disparaging regarding his children's bilingualism and also have apparently told them that some actors they like are blood drinking pedophiles. They also imply to all of use that it's like the verge of this 'Storm' thing and tell the kids to enjoy their fun etc while they still can. Not even remotely appropriate. Both my husband and his sister are rather heartbroken by their parents swift change and have been a bit resistant to distancing. They feel like this is a cult that has changed who their parents are and it would just drive them deeper to 'punish' them with reduced/no contact with the kids? I do understand they love their parents and that it's deeply painful to see them like this. Their parents have also sent them videos and tried to 'pill' them or whatever, but I am not really concerned it would work. It just makes them feel more sad and helpless as we all live far away from the parents. In my childhood, I had a few white family members on my mom's side who had a hard time accepting my father and myself, and I remember the words they said and the sense of betrayal and personal insecurity that came when I realized my race was the cause of their rejection. My own family didn't like who I was. It got to a point where my family ultimately decided to cut ties and we were all happier for it. (Sidebar: All these years later by my cousins accounts these same family members are now hardcore Trump supporters and Qanon followers themselves.) Therapy and the passing years have helped me get over it, but I feel like acting sooner could spare my daughter (and niece and nephew) some of what I went though. I feel like there probably is some deeper internalized racism that this q movement has given my in laws freedom to release but my husband doesn't seem to want to believe hat. Either way though, right now, this is harming the kids. My brother in law feels similarly in wanting to pull back, but our spouse aren't so sure how to proceed. I really believe this has already impacted/damaged the kids, and don't want it to continue, and am trying to get my husband to understand. This all sucks. Open to advice or commiseration and sending my thoughts to anyone dealing with a situation like this. Update: Had a very good long discussion with my husband and showed him this subreddit and your comments. I think he and I both know what had to be done but couldn't quite accept it. We've come to an agreement and some boundaries. Only he will be directly communicating with his parents for the foreseeable future, and he is telling them it is because of their inappropriate talks with our daughter. He is going to talk to his sister and advise she to do the same with her children. I know he is sad about it, but tbh I already feel such relief. Thank you all so much for your advice. It's such a hard and unexpected thing to have to deal with in families, but sometimes you just have to cut contact.
2020.09.08 21:21 ThrowRA-0042I Have Dark Eye, and I’m Starting to Develop a Complex About It.
So sorry for the throwaway, but I’m a biracial shorter bi-guy ; I’ve dealt with and come to terms with all of those things, but what’s giving me a complex in recent days is my eye color. I have dark eyes, really Dark eyes; pretty much black with a strip of “maybe it’s brown” just around the pupil. I’ve always been aware of it; I wanted glowing purple eyes when I was younger 😅; the three times I got friend-zoned trying as a young buck, my awkwardness made me listen to them go on about guys beautiful eyes, there where other factors but eyes where always a significant part of the discussion (in order they were blue, green, and then gray). The one ex who cheated on me; when confronted, had a 5 minute aside mid breakup meltdown to talk about how she “just couldn’t say no to those deep blue eyes” (the literal words that came out of her mouth). I’ve had other little things like partners commenting on people’s eyes, who, as I’m thinking about now, never had anything to say about my eyes. I’ve never gotten a compliment on my eyes, and of course not, they are just black. Now I’ve been talking to a girl online because quarantine, it was going well (pics are exchanged mutually, conversations are had, we are planning to meet up in person) when she says starts a new job and mid week she is saying she needs some time to get things in order I say “OK whatever you need.” I back off for a couple of days get ignored checking in over the following week. One week after that, I've accepted it (kinda) there is a Snapchat story talking about the great guy she met at work and “his beautiful green eyes.” silent screaming TLDR My black eyes seem to put me at a disadvantage in dating. I know I am a six on a good day, and I am not pretending that I can’t keep a partner because of my eyes. Genuinely it has been a negative factor around 70% of the relationships I’ve shot for or just a nonfactor. I do alright for myself, but it seems like every time people talk about how in love they are, they talk about the person's eye. I can’t help but feel like all anyone ever sees in my eyes is a dark void. I like them all, but fuck, if I’m honest with myself, I have a preference for green eyes. I don’t know if there is any advice that can be given. I kind of came on here to vent to somebody. But yeah: - Why is this such a big of a factor? - What could I possibly do about it? - Does anybody actually have any feeling about black eyes that aren’t about come villains beady black eyes? IDK Discuss and vent beautiful people of Reddit. I’m going to get some sleep Edit: The Spelling Issues I Caught.
Lisa Vanderpump Opens Up About Her Finances Taking a Hit Amid Pandemic (Reality Blurb/Give Them Lala... with Randall podcast) "While Lala described Lisa as “wealthy [as f**k]” during the episode after Lisa revealed that she is now doing her own nails, Lisa clarified that she “used to be” wealthy prior to the pandemic before saying she hopes it will be safe to reopen her restaurants soon. “Five months of paying rent and insurance, and having no business is taxing, stretching, [has been] a bit of a nightmare. But we’ll get back on track soon,” she shared. “When we do decide to open, we have good-sized patios. Pump is 90 percent garden. TomTom has two gardens and we can put tables outside. So we are very fortunate with that but we’ve just been waiting for it to be safe.” “Vanderpump Garden is open but distancing is essential and Caesars is doing a really good job with that,” she stated about her Las Vegas eatery which she opened last year. The Pump Rules boss also admitted during the interview that she helped her two children, Pandora Sabo and Max Todd, buy their homes. “I did buy them both… gave them the deposit for a place to live and they both have a mortgage,” shared Lisa. “Pandora and Jason have a mortgage and Max has a mortgage. I gave them a start but I like them to have their responsibilities.”
Teresa Giudice: How She Feels About Dating After Divorce From Joe Is Finalized (HollywoodLife Exclusive) “Teresa is having fun and flirting with men but she’s not dating anyone seriously. It’ll probably be some time before that happens but her friends are trying to set her up,” an insider close to the Real Housewives of New Jersey star spilled to HollywoodLife EXCLUSIVELY. “She seems to feel weird about it because of her younger daughters, so maybe when they’re a bit older,” the source added. “The girls aren’t ready for her to date and she’s really busy with them and filming that it’s just not at the top of her priority list. Maybe one day she’ll be open to a relationship and love again, but right now, she’s still healing from the end of her marriage and focusing on herself,” the insider explained. “She’s in the best place she’s been in quite sometime and you can tell how light and happy she is. The girls are doing well too and Gia being home so much has helped Teresa out tremendously. She is able to get out and have fun and unwind. She didn’t get to do that for a long time while Joe was away.” “Joe isn’t dating anyone seriously either for the same reasons. He’s missing his girls tremendously and that consumes his thoughts a lot,” the source said. “The family is all on FaceTime all day, every day. He sees his family often and has made friends and stays busy with work. This is a new chapter for all of them. The girls can’t wait to see their dad. As soon as it’s safe, it will happen,” they also noted. Despite the divorce, Teresa and Joe have maintained a friendly relationship — and are even going to be working together to sell sex toys! The duo have partnered with European distributor Zalo USA, which will be prominently featured on RHONJ‘s season 11."
Video interview: Ashley Darby on Her ‘Unconventional’ Marriage to Michael and Their Season 5 Troubles (ET Online exclusive) "Ashley Darby very much relates to Jada Pinkett Smith and the whole "entanglement" saga. "Oh my gosh," the Real Housewives of Potomac star sighs when the topic comes up. Back in June, Jada and her husband, Will Smith, revealed to the world that Jada had a relationship outside of her marriage to Will with singer August Alsina that went on for quite some time. Jada and August's "entanglement," as Jada dubbed it, occurred while Will and Jada were on a break of sorts from their marriage. "You know, I related to that a little more than I'd like to admit," Ashley says, recalling watching the episode of Red Table Talk on which Will and Jada discussed their relationship woes. "I was like, man, Jada. I'm with you girl," she continues. "I get it. I mean, marriage is just so hard -- and it's really hard being a public figure and having difficulties, and it's even more difficult when you decide to talk about them and say some things that aren't necessarily fitting the mold of what people think a marriage is or should be." Ashley's marriage to her husband, Michael, has been under a microscope for five years of RHOP. They have an age difference (she's a millennial, he's in his 50s) and a number of cultural differences (she's American and biracial, he's from Australia), and there hasn't been a single season where allegations of infidelity, hidden sexuality or some combination of the two aren't a topic of discussion. Season 5 is no different, as Ashley's co-star, Candiace Dillard Bassett, receives a text message with new accusations against Michael. This time, someone claims to have seen Michael out at a strip club, where he allegedly shared that he has "a boyfriend and a wife." "Obviously, Candiace and I have had our share of differences in the past, so I wasn't really keen on believing her from the beginning, because Candiace has said a lot of things that weren't true," Ashley shares of what starts to play out in this Sunday's episode. "I took it with a grain of salt... and then it unfolds and boy, does it unfold," she adds. "I mean, there's, like, layers upon layers upon layers of it." In the past, Ashley and Michael have largely brushed off the rumors, denied them or gotten involved in legal action about them. This time will be different, though, as Ashley admits Michael did make a "pretty significant" mistake. Viewers will see the 32-year-old confront her husband in an upcoming episode. "I'm truthful and I know that can be a hard thing to believe, and that people want to think that we make up things and there's all these facades around our relationship, but I really am truthful," she says. "So if there's something that needs to be talked about, if there's a hurdle that we actually do need to overcome or an issue we have to address, we're going to address it." "It's not as though I've said those things in the past to be facetious, or to just, like, you know, create this false illusion about my marriage," she adds, referencing the way the couple has handled marital speed bumps in the past. "No, if there was an issue then, I would've talked about it. When we were having issues with the restaurant [we owned], I was upfront and talked about it. When I was having issues with my mom and how my family dynamic was working, we talked about it, and this is not going to be any different. So, the things that were false, yes, I said those were false. The things that are true, I will talk about them, and if they're true, they're true." Ashley says fans will definitely learn some new information about her relationship and how it works before season 5’s end. "I'm not a conventional person and I just don't think it's gonna come as a shock to anybody," she teases. "Michael and I are an unconventional couple in many ways." The pair is still very much together, though. They recently wrapped up an extended stay at their beach house in Delaware, and are now back home in the Potomac area. (And she's not sure why Google has Michael labeled as "Ashley Darby’s ex-husband," but offers a joke guess of a petty employee of the search engine just wanting to mess with her.) "I love my husband," she declares. "He's a great husband, and my relationship is going to withstand. It's strong enough to withstand a lot. It's really going to be up to us to what we think is something we can overcome. I'm not going to let the media, or the public, or the opinions of others affect what I do and how I approach my marriage. Everyone's going to have an opinion. I'm sure there'll be some very strong reactions to what they see and what happens, but ultimately the only person who really lays next to Michael at night and has to have these discussions is me. So, that's that." (more in article and in video)
Lydia McLaughlin Weighs in on the New RHOC Season (bravotv.com) "Lydia still spends lots of time with her RHOC friends Gretchen Rossi, Lizzie Rovsek, and Alexis Bellino. In fact, all three women made an appearance on Glitter Town during a super glam brunch Lydia and Judy threw. Lydia actually sees Gretchen (and her adorable daughter, Skylar Gray) on a weekly basis. “We’re in a bible study together,” Lydia explained. “We’ve grown really close. She’s a wonderful mom, and she loves her little baby, and she’s just dedicated her whole life to Skylar. I’m so proud of her.” When asked how she feels about Tamra Judge and Vicki Gunvalson not returning, Lydia explained, “I felt like it was a long time coming, honestly. I think it’s a good switch-up. I’m excited to see what the cast does.” “I love Vicki, and I ran into her a couple times, and I think it’s good for her. I think she’s ready to leave,” Lydia continued. “She has a successful relationship, she has an engagement. She has a daughter, she’s a grandmother. I think that she has a lot going on. I do know that Tamra…she’s not letting it go. She’s still talking about it. I just feel bad for her, it’s kind of like, OK, you need to move on and do something else. She’s talking about the next season, and I think it’s a little…it sounds pathetic.” There are also two ‘Wives she’s not on great terms with. “Shannon [Storms Beador] and Tamra both have blocked me, so I don’t know what’s going on in their lives,” she said. “I don’t know, maybe they’ve unblocked me now. I haven’t checked lately.” Lydia went on to say that after 15 seasons, she finds it refreshing to meet some fresh faces, as it’s interesting to take a look into the lives of new people who have stories to tell."
Tomorrow will be 30 days. I gave you that timeline so we would both feel better about the time apart. Impermanent, definite. Honestly, it’s worked. We’d be back together if I didn’t block you and I would be again sacrificing my vision of an ideal life with a partner and settling. Huge sigh here because that concept of scarcity pops in and triggers my insecurities of being a biracial woman attracted to Asians who are the smallest minority where I live. I’m so so glad I followed through with this. I like my life better now. Lonely is better than losing oneself in a relationship. Yeah, I don’t lose sleep like I did when you dominated my space.
2020.08.19 13:32 ZeldaTargaryenIs anyone a fan of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure? (F4M) (17+)
Good afternoon everyone! I'm looking for canon x oc, (willing to double) with Jotaro against an OC of mine, whose form will be below. I'm looking to do this without being constrained by events that occur after the end of Stardust crusaders, so the characters are free to do as they pleased, and we can adjust and change canon accordingly (I'm happy to do an everybody lives AU, medieval AU etc). If you can play Jotaro, please message me! I'm looking for the gruff, uncommunicative Jotaro we all know and love, not an OOC Jotaro who is basically an OC. Sorry, I'm just not looking for OC x OC rn. However! I do also have a medieval AU idea for JJBA, so if you're interested in that, let me know! Just want to be very clear about something, I really appreciate good communication with my partners. I hope for daily messages, even if it's not replies to the RP. If it's just a "good morning", or a "Sorry, can't RP today" that's all good. As i look after an elderly person and need to shield, I don't really get to leave the house often, so I have a lot of time on my hands. Apologies if that's too much for you, please just let me know and I'll stop. I write semi-literate, so multiple paragraphs, though my length does fluctuate depending on how much my partner is given. I don't expect you to match me, but I do hope for more than one-liners. ~~~ When Holy Kujo had gotten up again, as well as she ever had been, it had relieved the Speedwagon Foundation doctors more than anything and they began to pack everything up, ready to leave before the end of the day. They'd already been halfway done by the time Kiyoko had arrived, with more groceries and supplies in carrier bags, as well as a pile of papers for Jotaro. At hearing the woman was well, the young girl was glad, but also worried that now her meagre conversation and words of comfort wouldn't be sufficient with this chirpy, eager woman and her mother, and even after leaving the groceries at the fridge, Holy wouldn't cease and insisted that the girl remain there for tea. She was rather dull when it came to conversation, far too nervous and feeling out of place. Suzie Q and Holy chattered a lot about Joseph and Jotaro, and Kiyoko joined in sometimes, making small comments but not really able to hold much conversation. So, the girl was knelt in the living room, knees supported by a pillow, pleading with Holy to not make her tea, that she was still healing, but the woman would have none of it, claiming it to be rude to deny a woman her companionship whilst she and her mother waited for her family to return. Soon, the doctors were gone, and it was just the three women, left chattering about nothings, though mostly about Jotaro, who Kiyoko knew from class. Then, the door slid open, and two Joestar men stood there, silhouetted in the doorway. ~~~ OC form: Name: Kiyoko Fujiyama Age: 17 (Just to clarify, her birthday in RP is in a month so I don't want NSFW to happen until she is of age) Appearance: She has pretty, long brown hair, down to her hips which she often plaits, ties up or leaves down, with flowers in it. She's typically beautiful for a japanese girl, with flawless skin and very pretty facial proportions, however unlike the stereotype, she has a rather curvy body, with a busty chest and wide hips and thighs. Her eyes are a rather light brown, which seem to glisten lilac in the light, but it's only an optical illusion. She wears the uniform Jotaro's school requires when she attends and on most weekdays, but otherwise she dresses rather plainly, not wanting to call attention to herself. Due to her father being English, her style is rather more influenced by Hritain, and so she'll often have tartan clothing or a combo of red, white and blue, like the Union Flag. She will almost always wear makeup, however it isn't always noticable, as she'll mostly wear thin eyeliner and lip gloss/lipstick. Personality: She's quite the loner, tending to spend her time alone, reading manga, or listening to American and British music, to help her learn English, which she speaks in an English accent, due to learning it from English people (English bands and her father). She's also short-tempered, and quick to lose her temper and yell at anyone who upsets her, but she always ends up regretting it, because she knows that she's lonely because she isolates herself, however she doesn't know how to make friends. Bio: Having been born and raised in Japan, she's well integrated with her own culture despite her being biracial, but has always wanted more, to travel and see the world. She was taught English by her father and can speak it fluently. Before his -bizarre- adventure, she went to school with Jotaro, and was in many of his classes and was actually growing worried for him, and went to help the Speedwagon Foundation care for his mother, by bringing them groceries and anything else they needed, until Jotaro returned. Her father is a rich, English businessman working in Japan and married to a Japanese woman, and because of his wealth, she had a cushy life, however she is soon to be in an arranged marriage for the sake of her father's business, which she had seen to be normal, thinking nobody else would ever want to marry her.
2020.08.19 02:55 GlambyqueenProtecting my unborn child from potentially racist family members
Hi all ... I will try to get to the point here and I’m looking for anyone going through something similar and also, in a way, validation that I’m doing the right thing. I am pregnant with my first child, who is going to be biracial. I am white and my partner of 10 years is black and Latino. Our relationship is obviously nothing new to my family and no one has ever dared say anything directly to my face about it before. While there aren’t really any biracial couples in my family, we’re from a very diverse city and honestly I grew up with 0 white friends so I don’t think it’s very surprising. That being said, I know there are racist undertones in some of my family members thinking, like aunts, uncles and cousins. For example, were italian and I’ve heard the slur (which I didn’t know it was as a child) ‘moulignan’ be thrown around like its normal! More importantly, I also recently found out from my mom that my brother (we are not close) has been expressing white supremacist ideologies to her and is now all the sudden a Trump supporter. He told her democrats are going “against God and the Bible” (we are not religious) and was talking negatively about Jews. I think he’s been radicalized on the internet. I just recently told my mom I’m pregnant and expressed that I do not want my brother to meet my child. She started crying and saying that’s unfair. I do think my brother will be hurt and it makes holidays awkward, but it is my job to protect my child. I’m also weary about my child being around some family members I do not think have pure intentions. I’m also thinking for my baby shower to send out the invite asking “do black lives matter?” With the answer boxes yes and no ... and then on the back saying this answer is also your rsvp. LOL I know that’s a little over the top, but I feel like it’ll really get my point across to all family that I am not playing around with them and they better ALWAYS come correct around me and my child. I guess I’m just really looking for validation here. Should I give people the chance before reacting harshly or should I set the expectation right now?
2020.08.17 19:36 ClaudiaMarquezPartner's (46M) business is not cut for me (31F) and I'm afraid what to do about it because my heart really goes for baking
Hi, Maybe I just need to vent out. Maybe I'm just looking to get this out in the open but here goes. My partner made a business -- a recruitment agency. We are a biracial couple and he usually is out of the country to take care his other real estate businesses. He made the business in my home country so while he is away I'm the one looking after it. We are currently apart due to the pandemic... Backstory: At first when the business was being planned, I was part of it. The business idea was created one drunken night with a female friend -- let's call her S -- because S knows how the business works. He took me out because he thought I will clash with S due to personality differences and he thought that my personality will not work for a corporate world. This hurt me really bad, because it was supposed to be Me and Him, not him and her. Anyway, even though it hurt pretty bad, I accepted that and decided to move on and decided not to mingle with his business anymore. Fast forward, S turns out to be a psychologically unstable business partner and keep on disappearing and not making proper follow ups with their clients and not making enough revenue. I ended up "saving" his business because while S was down the drain, I was the one to keep the business afloat by studying everything S was doing to make the business work in a short amount of time. He reinstates me as board of director again due to this. Business is excruciatingly slow due to the pandemic but it's still here. If I would like to be completely transparent. I know this corporate business is really not for me and the only reason why I'm here is because this business seems a good opportunity. Do I enjoy it? No. Is it an opportunity? Yes. Now the gist -- I am in love with baking. Before I was a hobby baker but sometimes here and there, I take cake orders or baked goodies orders and it makes me feel so alive. When he took me out of the business, I devoted my time in upgrading my baking skills. Although my baking business is not as big of a revenue, I am happy that can at least earn something from it. Unfortunately, just a couple of hours ago, after venting out to my partner my demotivation and frustration with a specific client I'm working on, I explained to him that it's not like my baking that at least I can feel fulfilled as when there is a problem, I can find a solution, not like a recruitment agency with a never ending problem. Then he dropped the bomb -- He said, "Hobby is not a business". Then later, "Hobby is passion and passion and business are two different things". I say, "One can be passionate with a business brought from hobby" This....hurt me. Now I understood why each time I happily tell him I have cake orders or I drop him some hints that we can make a business out of this, it never really went 100% of his approval nor he wasn't at all convinced. Now I understood. He suggests that we call the business quits. But I feel like if I do that, I feel like I failed as a partner for not being 100% on board with it, I feel like I proved him right when he said I'm not cut for corporate setting, and I feel like my efforts will also go down the drain now that I somehow know how the business works. I also feel like I'm the reason the business failed when he worked hard to put up this business. Like, there is this business, I can make I work, but it's just not my cup of tea but I still make an effort because the opportunity is there anyway... I'm not sure now what to do now, after he said "the bomb" on me, I feel more lost and conflicted. I feel so numb..... Thank you for listening. EDIT: grammatical mistakes
2020.08.16 01:11 SkippingPebblessRequest - Money for Extra Groceries, replacing flood destroyed hot water heater
I guess I don't want to bog everybody down with the extra details because my story is pretty much the same as everybody else's to a certain extent. I'm a 41yo queer person living in the suburbs of Philadelphia with a 40yo black woman and her biracial child. We're I guess what you'd call non-romantic life partners. We've lived together for four years along with her child, who happens to be a queer 16 year old. Both of us applied for unemployment. I was *just* approved for Pandemic Unemployment Compensation, but I have yet to receive it and it's for the bare minimum of $195 a week. I'm told I *MAY* be eligibel for back payment going back to March but that it could take 8+ weeks to get approval. Things have been rough but they've gotten much much worse because roughly a week ago when that hurricane grazed the coast, it flooded our basement and destroyed our hot water heater. It's only from 2017 but the warranty from Home Depot doesn't cover flooding. The best estimate we've gotten so far to get a new one and have it replaced is over $1,500 because it's a day long job that requires removal. So for over a week have no hot water for proper hand washing, clothing and dish washing, etc... Any cash would be amazing, but also any electronic gift cards for Target, Wal*Mart, Amazon or even ACME or Food Lion would be an amazing ease of the burden we're looking at right now. Cash app is $jbradfordmusic. If you can send gift cards, you could send them via email to theofficialdumdum @ gmail . com Thanks in advance. <3 https://preview.redd.it/ae5vs12h09h51.jpg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cb4a1359b4b7e3e9820030211c42433178856aa4
2020.08.15 01:38 burneraccountblazeitTIFU By thinking I was invincible.
Not today but when I was about ~15. A little background info: I am biracial White/Black and generally look racially ambiguous. People often ask what I "am" now that I'm grown but when I was younger I basically looked like a white kid with a shaved head and a tan. I was visiting my grandmother on my dads side of the family in Cleveland Ohio and in the area we were in, my mother and I were the whitest looking people for about 4 blocks. I woke up one sunny evening from a power-blackout after eating Grandma's cooking and went to grab the mail. As I'm walking down the driveway I see that there's 7 rough looking guys at least 8+ years older than me chillin around a van playing music, drinking, and smoking across the street. I figure fuck it and I start walking down the driveway and they all start looking at me. Now, I don't know how old you are but when I was 15, I thought I was absolutely invincible. I was fueled by lean meats, whey protein, and my mom's bomb ass spaghetti and in my head, there was nothing and nobody that could hurt me. In my head, as I was walking down that driveway, I was already beating the shit out of all 7 of them at the same time. Then I was rudely interrupted from my daydream, "what the fuck are you doin here white boy? All barefoot and shit" Which is when I said the worst thing possible for a ~15 year old "white kid with a tan", "Y'all sayin ass" kid from Texas "Who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" Immediately, the guy front and center pulls out (and I shit you not) a nickle plated Smith and Wesson out from behind his back and points it at me. When you have a gun in your face, for those who are inexperienced, things become very real, very quickly and right before my very eye's my invincibility wore off and I realized I was dumber than a sack of shit and probably about to get killed. Then he repeated his question "I said what the fuck are you doin here white boy?" To which I sheepishly replied "I'm just here visiting my grandma man". "Aw shit you're Ruth's grandson? Man, I didn't recognize you from all the pictures, she talks about you all the time. That tough shit is gonna get you hurt man, come here". I hung out with them for a bit and it turns out that Jesse and my 84 year old ("praise Jesus" and married to a pastor her whole life) grandmother like to play domino's, watch tv, and bake stuff a couple of times a week. After tasting malt liquor for the first time (still love it), meeting my grandmas domino's partner, and grabbing the mail I went back inside and asked my grandma about Jesse and she absolutely couldn't stop ranting and raving about how sweet he was and that he's always helping her around the house now that she's old seeing as my grandpa died about 10 years earlier. Then she leaned in and told me "Sometimes we even smoke reefer and watch NCIS". After hearing that last sentence I learned a few things about my grandma and Jesse.
Jesse is a G because he didn't mention shit about my grandma smoking weed.
My grandma had a wild streak in her.
Even though it worked out for me that time I'm glad I learned to keep my fucking mouth shut. Tl;dr: I chose to say the wrong thing, at the wrong time, to a person pointing a gun at me and it turns out him and my 84 year old grandma bake and play domino's/watch tv a couple times a week.
2020.08.07 21:56 AlluroseNo Hobbies/Boring/Deteriorating Mental Health
Things in my life are improving:
I started a new job this week on a new team at the company I was previously laid off from
I got approved for an apartment and will be relocating at the end of the month
I've lost a significant amount of weight since having weight loss surgery last year
Yet...I feel my mental health getting worse. I take anti-depressants (50mg zoloft daily) and I use 420 edibles pretty much daily to turn off my brain in the evenings since I have anxiety and overthink a lot. I had a manic episode last week where I dyed my hair pink because I "needed a change" and then regretted it immensely the next day and broke down to my partner. I'm a 20-something biracial black woman in the US so a lot of the peaceful BLM protesting turned violent due to police issues had me incredibly upset and the COVID pandemic/quarantine has definitely had an effect on me and social interactions. I'm someone who used to be an artist. I've always been a fan of the manga art style and grew up creating my own characters and fanart, but once I reached my heaviest weight my hands suffered from carpal tunnel and my ability to draw was stopped because I couldn't handle the pain/numbness I dealt with a few minutes into trying to draw with my tablet. Even though I've lost over 100 lbs, I still experience this and can't do the hobby I used to love so I've stopped enjoying it and don't create anymore. I don't have any hobbies to keep myself occupied, and I often feel like a boring person...scrolling through netflix for hours, surfing tiktok, etc. A lot of the times if I'm not working I'll just drag myself to bed early because I have nothing better do to and enjoy dreaming in my sleep. I know that's not healthy and in the long run could lead to falling back into old depression habits of being in bed all the time. I just...don't know what to do. I'm suffering today with my thoughts telling me I suck, I'm boring, I shouldn't be alive since I don't enjoy my life like other people, etc. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm not suicidal, but sometimes my brain's negative thoughts are just really hard to turn off and I end up hating myself a whole lot. Thanks everyone.
2020.08.03 15:51 emobrat97hesitant about having a white baby???
hey! i’m a 23 year old biracial woman (black and white). i’m currently in a relationship with a white man. while i don’t plan on having kids anytime soon, i can’t stop thinking about having a baby that’s 75% white and what kind of affect that would have on me. my (white) mom has romanticized the idea of me having a 75% white baby since i started dating for some reason. she thinks it would be the “perfect” mix. always saying it’ll have light skin and blue eyes with the “perfect” curl, which is problematic to say the least. i think my biggest concern is having a baby who will more than likely be white passing, which i definitely am not, and not being able to share experiences or culture with it. also, feeling like an outsider in my own family if i were to have a mostly white baby with a fully white man. obviously, i would love my baby regardlessly and i would never set out to find a partner solely based on me being weary of having a baby that’s 75% white. everything happens the way it’s meant to. it took me a long time to learn that black is beautiful, especially with society and the people around me always putting down my black side and my natural hair. i’m not fetishizing blackness, but i’m terrified of having a family i feel like an outsider in. is this way of thinking/feeling problematic? does anyone else feel this way?
2020.07.28 21:28 hkimb14Interested in interviewing parents' experiences of raising biracial child(ren).
Hi, I hope you are doing well. I am a doctoral candidate researching parents' experiences of raising biracial children. My doctoral dissertation involves in-depth interviews with monoracial parents who are raising their biracial child(ren). I'm interested in their lived experiences as parents, and how they perceive their parental practices guide the child(ren)'s racial/ethnic identity development. I'm looking for participants who are willing to share their experiences. The purpose of the study is to delve into parents’ experience and parental practices of raising East Asian-Caucasian biracial children. In order to participate in the study, a participant must: • Identify hehimself as East Asian (i.e., China, Japan, Hong Kong, Korea, and Taiwan) or Caucasian/white. • Be interracially married to an individual who identifies hehimself as East Asian or Caucasian/white. • Have at least one biological child age 3 or older. • Be willing to be interviewed with their spouse. • Reside in the United States. • Must have access to the Internet for an online interview via Zoom. • Must be at least 18 years old. • Must speak English. If you or anyone you know meet these criteria and are interested, please message me to schedule an online interview and I'll give you more detail. The interview will last no more than 60 minutes. Participation is voluntary and you may withdraw from the study at any time. Potential risks include emotional distress, loss of confidentiality in all email, downloading, and internet transactions. Thank you so much for your time. P.S. I'm Korean married to a White partner. As we plan to be parents someday, this topic is very important and personal to me as well, so I'm taking my dissertation very seriously and I was hoping I could recruit participants from this group. Please let me know if this post is not appropriate. Thank you.
2020.07.18 19:07 redsenmaHelp Getting An Appropriate Job
Hello everyone, Trigger warning: Sexual assault, child abuse, mental health, suicidal attempt/ideation. I'm not sure how to flair this as it's a request for assistance with a job, but also probably advice. Please bear with me because this is going to be a long one, I'm being fairly indepth as i need to explain the extent of the mental turmoil I'm experiencing. I'm going to be brutally honest here, as I want to emphasize how pathetic I am and difficult it is to overcome my mental issues. When I explain a bit about my situation, I'm sure some people might suggest me not talking to my family. But that simply insn't possible as I love my grandma too much. My name is Lexi, or redsenma, and I'm twenty years old. I have been living with my grandparents since I was very younger, at least under five years old. Growing up as a biracial granddaughter in a redneck family. I'm not trying to badmouth them, I am grateful. But, in my family I was sexually assaulted several times. By an adopted son of my grandmothers sister, by my grandmothers partners son (this went on for years and has severely affected me.) and by a friend of my mother, who I went to live with when I was 12. I am told by my aunt that my earliest abuse I did try to tell somebody or something along the lines of that, but it was brushed off as me being a lying kid. When I was assaulted at twelve years old, I attempted to report it. It was a mistake. The police said I was lying because I couldn't remember much, and my story didn't make much sense. The person who assaulted me also broke into our house (as my mother told him that I was assaulted, not realizing until later he was the one who did it) and retrieved the sheets that he molested me in. That was the only proof I had, as he had used a condom. I had a rape kit done I believe (or something along the lines of that) but there was no internal damage or anything. I returned home. I'm going to fast forward here, but needless to say I suffered a lot. But as with most things in my life, I forgot about it. I'm told this is a direct response to the trauma I suffered. Even the night it happened my memory was foggy. The main problem with my situation, is my mental health state. I'm anxious, all of the time. I'm depressed, and I don't have many life skills. As my grandmother didn't teach me, and felt bad for me. I did try a fast food job, but my aunt tells me they were terrible, and I wasn't in the wrong. They threw me into rush hour on whopper wednesday, were condescending and visibly frustrated when I wasn't fast at instructions, was anxious, and wasn't good with the till or numbers. Despite the fact I outlined this in my resume, and my interview. This has further contributed to my inferiority complex, and has truly made me feel idiotic. Throughout my school life, this was the response to any difficulty I had. Aware of how they were treating me, I began to give up. And care less. thus I was labelled a problem child, and a lost cause. Except to a few teachers. I'm not very smart, I lack common sense, I have difficult comprehending things, and numbers and math are particularly hard. I don't know my multiplication tables. Going back to my assault, the one that occured for several years. This is the only one I remember with any detail. It has several affected me. The problem however, is that I am unable to heal from it. I recently told my friends about it, and they have given me their utmost support. But they emphasize how I have to move out. The reason being, is that my grandmother and nonblood related grandfater, still talk to this person in question. They know he assaulted me. And they believe me. But it's still his "son" so they're forced to talk to him, apparently. It's a flimsy excuse, but a painful one. I have argued with my grandmother on multiple occassions. Most recently this month, and I can't do it anymore. I told her that when they talk to him, or I see anything about him; it kills me inside. I literally want to die. Waking up is a chore, looking at myself fills me with disgust. My body, my sexuality, all of it makes me want to hurl most days. I cannot stress to her enough how I feel. But she doesn't care. She has given everything to and for this man, and because he talks to him she won't relent. She even said I could go live with my aunt if it was that bad. And that's a whole different bag of worms, even though my aunt is amazing. I want to get out. I want to get a job. I want to be self sufficient. But I can't. The only job I have experience with is cleaning, as I cleaned with my aunt. However, I would need a license. I don't even have my learners. I could do it, but I don't even want to drive. I don't think I could, my anxiety is so bad. I'm not asking for money because I would likely squander it. And I don't have any other experience. As I said above, I'm really stupid. So I'm only asking for assistance for low paying jobs. I graduated high school. And I went back to upgrade. but I didn't go to university because she had to move due to my grandfathers health issues. I forgot to mention above, but she did this during my last year of highschool. It was supposed to be a week. But he was so sick he was forbade to fly on airlines. One week turned into 6months. 6 months of me being by myself, having to cook, clean, budget, take care of animals, do my homework, and study. When I had no life skills to speak of. I couldn't even cook a grill cheese. Not to mention, during this time, my grandparents dog behaved horribly. And shit and pissed in the house everyday. I took her out reguarly, but she would do it when I was sleeping or while at school. Even if I got up in the middle of the night to take her out, she would do it later if it was raining or something. to speed it up, the house was an absolute pigsty, animal feces everywhere, garbage, maggots. And my cat my mother had gave to me without any warning or shots or getting fixed kept getting pregnant. our dog also got quilled by a porcupine while she was gone and that was even more stress. When my grandparents returned, they abused me emotionally and verbally and made me feel less than garbage. I have enough self awareness to realize it was disgusting, but I was a teenager, who was depressed and shouldn't have been left alone for 6 months. I wasn't in the wrong. I've expressed how they treated me during that time, but they brushed it off. I'm digressing, but my point is--I didn't want to go to university with no support. Just like what happened during grade 12. My friend promised me I could go to his parents house if I wanted, but I wasn't comfortable; for a variety of reasons. So I went with her March of 2019, I've been here for a year. And I desperately want to go home. I love being able to see my aunt, and it's nice to see my mother too, when she isn't being selfish or manipulative. But my chosen family is 5000miles away. The final dark subject I suppose, is in October of 2019, my good friend, and prom date, killed himself. I don't really know where to start with this. he had a crush on me, and i was distancing myself. But i wasnt purposefully ghosting him. I had moved away as I mentioned, and was basically being a free babysitter for my mother who had her own motives. And besides I'm just distant like that, and I don't answers messages well or snapchat at all. when he killed himself he had snapchatted me a week before and I didn't see it. a month or two before that, I played minecraft with him and my online friend. he also posted on his instagram a week before he killed himself. it felt so surreal. i wasnt able to go to his memorial, and i'm told he was cremated. I have attempted suicide before. i swallowed a bunch of sleeping pills. but my brother told my grandmother, and my mom came home at the time. so i was forced to throw up for hours until the ambulance showed up. I am grateful I didn't die. but it doesnt mean i want to be alive. i know that i would hurt many people if i died, so i dont attempt anymore. and i know that i dont really want to die either, its just incredibly hard being alive. it feels like i wasn't meant to be born or be here. theres so much wrong with my life, and if i wasnt so stupid and could just get a grip and get a job. i could be free. but i cant and i hate it so much. My only solace in life is my online friends and in real life friends and my aunt. I just need help, and I don't know what to do, and I thought an outside perspective might help. I'm being very transparent here as I am at a loss. My mental health is literally collapsing in on itself, and I've held this stuff in for so long. If anyone has any advice or resources or anything, I would love a pm. Otherwise commenting below is fine, but I won't reveal anything in comments more than i already have.
2020.07.11 14:18 ZeldaTargaryenJotaro's Very Bizarre Adventure [Canon x OC] [Open to doubling]
Good evening everyone! So, I have posted something similar to this, but luckily, I finished Diamond is Unbreakable a few weeks ago and I'm even more in love with Jotaro, and am super excited to do this RP with SC Jotaro! I'm looking for canon x oc, (willing to double) with Jotaro against an OC of mine, whose form will be below. I'm looking to do this without being constrained by events that occur after the end of Stardust crusaders, so the characters are free to do as they pleased. If you can play Jotaro, please message me! I'm looking for the gruff, uncommunicative Jotaro we all know and love, not an OOC Jotaro who is basically an OC. Sorry, I'm just not looking for OC x OC rn. However! I do also have a medieval AU idea for JJBA, so if you're interested in that, let me know! Just want to be very clear about something, I really appreciate good communication with my partners. I hope for daily messages, even if it's not replies to the RP. If it's just a "good morning", or a "Sorry, can't RP today" that's all good. As i look after an elderly person and need to shield, I don't really get to leave the house often, so I have a lot of time on my hands. Apologies if that's too much for you, please just let me know and I'll stop. ~~~ When Holy Kujo had gotten up again, as well as she ever had been, it had relieved the Speedwagon Foundation doctors more than anything and they began to pack everything up, ready to leave before the end of the day. They'd already been halfway done by the time Kiyoko had arrived, with more groceries and supplies in carrier bags, as well as a pile of papers for Jotaro. At hearing the woman was well, the young girl was glad, but also worried that now her meagre conversation and words of comfort wouldn't be sufficient with this chirpy, eager woman and her mother, and even after leaving the groceries at the fridge, Holy wouldn't cease and insisted that the girl remain there for tea. She was rather dull when it came to conversation, far too nervous and feeling out of place. Suzie Q and Holy chattered a lot about Joseph and Jotaro, and Kiyoko joined in sometimes, making small comments but not really able to hold much conversation. So, the girl was knelt in the living room, knees supported by a pillow, pleading with Holy to not make her tea, that she was still healing, but the woman would have none of it, claiming it to be rude to deny a woman her companionship whilst she and her mother waited for her family to return. Soon, the doctors were gone, and it was just the three women, left chattering about nothings, though mostly about Jotaro, who Kiyoko knew from class. Then, the door slid open, and two Joestar men stood there, silhouetted in the doorway. ~~~ OC form: Name: Kiyoko Fujiyama Age: 17 (Just to clarify, her birthday in RP is in a month so I don't want NSFW to happen until she is of age) Appearance: She has pretty, long brown hair, down to her hips which she often plaits, ties up or leaves down, with flowers in it. She's typically beautiful for a japanese girl, with flawless skin and very pretty facial proportions, however unlike the stereotype, she has a rather curvy body, with a busty chest and wide hips and thighs. Her eyes are a rather light brown, which seem to glisten lilac in the light, but it's only an optical illusion. She wears the uniform Jotaro's school requires when she attends and on most weekdays, but otherwise she dresses rather plainly, not wanting to call attention to herself. Due to her father being English, her style is rather more influenced by britain, and so she'll often have tartan clothing or a combo of red, white and blue, like the Union Flag. She will almost always wear makeup, however it isn't always noticable, as she'll mostly wear thin eyeliner and lip gloss/lipstick. Personality: She's quite the loner, tending to spend her time alone, reading manga, or listening to american and british music, to help her learn English, which she speaks in an english accent, due to learning it from English people (english bands and her father). She's also short-tempered, and quick to lose her temper and yell at anyone who upsets her, but she always ends up regretting it, because she knows that she's lonely because she isolates herself, however she doesn't know how to make friends. Bio: Having been born and raised in Japan, she's well integrated with her own culture despite her being biracial, but has always wanted more, to travel and see the world. She was taught English by her father and can speak it fluently. Before his -bizarre- adventure, she went to school with Jotaro, and was in many of his classes and was actually growing worried for him, and went to help the Speedwagon Founation care for his mother, by bringing them groceries and anything else they needed, until Jotaro returned. Her father is a rich, English businessman working in Japan and married to a Japanese woman, and because of his wealth, she had a cushy life, however she is soon to be in an arranged marriage for the sake of her father's business, which she had seen to be normal, thinking nobody else would ever want to marry her.
2020.07.02 03:33 Skylaranne17My boyfriend has horrible opinions and is really good at arguing them.
My boyfriend (21) keeps getting angry over politics, which isn’t really too big of an issue, I (19F) feel the same as him. He’s well spoken and can get his point across pretty well most of the time. But when he has an opinion, he has is nailed to the floor. Here are his worst opinions so far: 1. Black people can’t be mad for other people wearing black hairstyles because that’s racial segregation and is the same as the water fountains almost. Also it’s okay for other people to wear it without knowing the history because not every black person knows the history behind their hair either. 2. You can be racist towards white people. 3. If you have an abusive partner, just leave. Unless they have a gun to your head, he doesn’t see why you can’t. 4. If people are still racist or homophobic now, they should just be killed. You can’t try to help them, they’ve had their chance. He grew up in the middle of nowhere in a predominantly white town, he’s biracial with no black influence in his life from what I’ve witnessed. I’m very very white, but grew up in a pretty diverse city. I don’t know how to argue his points without telling him that he’s just being ignorant anymore. Whenever I try to come up with valid arguments he says “I just don’t get it-“ I personally don’t think anyone has ever told him to shut up before. Im not set in stone with the first argument, I just don’t think it’s mine to make?
2020.07.01 19:52 SirventsalotWhite dog owner assumed I was a dog walker?
For context, I am a biracial woman and I just moved into a very, very white neighbourhood with my partner and our dog. While many people are nice and friendly, I’ve had a few...weird encounters recently. They’ve all been kind of unsettling and I wanted to share one particular experience I keep thinking about. Recently, I was walking my dog when we passed another dog owner. My dog was showing a lot of interest in the dog, so I asked the owner if we could say hi. The owner agreed and we kept a safe distance that still enabled our dogs to interact. While they were doing the usual butt sniff intro, the other dog owner (who was white) was complimenting my dog on how cute he was. I joked that he knew it too and this would just go to his head. They laughed, then asked, “so, he’s your dog?” We’ve had our dog since he was a puppy and in the 2+ years of raising him nobody has ever, and I mean EVER, asked if I was the dog’s owner. After a pause I confirmed that I was, in fact, the dog’s owner. They immediately responded along the lines of, “oh, I thought you were a dog walker or something.” I started to answer like “dog...walker? No, I’m...” and then I just awkwardly started to walk away. They seemed really embarrassed at this point and walked away as well. I mean, it’s not like I was walking around in a shirt that said “certified dog walker.” I don’t understand what it was about me walking my dog, just as they were, that led them to assume I was a dog walker.
2020.06.30 23:33 MadhamsterzHow do deal I with racist and xenophobic extended family? It really us upsetting to me and causes me concern. Should I draw boundaries? I'm pregnant with a biracial baby.
My family is White and a good chunk of them are Racists (IMO) or at the very least extremely resistant to racial progress and ignorant. For further information, I'm White and partner is a Latino immigrant. Our baby on the way will be biracial Latina. For even more context, my extended family of 6 uncles and their families once lived where my family lives in a more urban county but participated in the "White Flight" era of the 1990s when Whites left the area as Blacks moved in and moved other White counties. My dad, mom, and my sister and me were the only family that stayed in this County, and because of this, grew up in a much more diverse place. My extended family have made xenophobic and racist comments. When I brought my ex who is tan with a beard to a surprise party I planned for my dad two years ago, my aunt exclaimed "Oh GOD!! He isn't Muslim, is he?" to those around her. My partner was adopted from Romania and played in a band at his church. When I made a surprise party for my parents anniversary, and shared that I live on a budget to pay off grad school loans, my aunt said, "Well, you know that's all because of illegal immigrants!" I said nothing because it was my parents' party and her words were ridiculous. As of recently I have decided to no longer remain silent when these comments are dropped. My other cousins are coming out strongly anti black lives matter on FB and making questionable comments to my Jewish friends in exchanges on my Facebook shares. Another says why don't we remove all Muslims from the country if we want to remove confederate statues, as if that equivalent. And that sort of thing. I spoke to my therapist about it and she suggested not to not invite my aunt to a baby shower because it might cause her a sort of reason to think she's being mistreated and dive deeper into her attitudes. For whatever readon I feel personally sickened by it all and that they behave how they behave. Even if I were not having a biracial baby I still want to advocate for my friends of color and don't know how I can break bread with people (family) who in my opinion have toxic actions, words, and attitudes on race that do harm my friends in a way IMO. How, in 2020, do those of us who are now seeing our family members more clearly for who they are in terms of racism, continue to live or interact or not with them? I'm not perfect and have had to shift my own views on equality over time and check myself for subconscious racial bias and fix it if anything is found, but I feel theirs is so unapologetically inappropriate at times. What would you do?
2020.06.27 01:49 woahkenners18 [F4A] Anywhere/Online- Is our love written in the stars?
Hello! I’m Kensley, and 18, I’m panromantic gray-asexual (I lean more towards feminine individuals), and looking for a potential partner!distance doesn’t matter to me at all! Near or far, my love knows no bounds! (I live in Georgia, USA) And with that, here’s some things about me: If I had to describe myself, I’d say that I'm soft (big “uwu” energy), romantic, and caring! I'm also clingy, a total dork, and a weirdo- or so people say! I’m 5’7 and mixed(biracial). I’m also a bit shy, but as I start to warm up, I’ll get more comfortable! I usually spend my days on tiktok, reading (my favorite series is Warrior Cats), drawing, and watching YouTube/Hulu/Netflix, also watching anime (if you have any recommendations, lemme know!), playing video games (I play on switch, 3DS, and PS4- but mainly the switch), listening to music (some of my favorite bands/artists include Justin Timberlake, Walk The Moon, Imagine Dragons, and AWOLNATION), and talking to my friends! I'm also into new age beliefs/occult (tarot, astrology, witchcraft, etc.) and LOVE animals, especially cats! That’s all I can really think of for now, if you’re interested, don’t hesitate to say hi! 💜 (The reason Im posting here is partly because- I’m gray-asexual, which means I rarely experience sexual attraction, and a lot of people won’t talk to me due to that ;-; so I’m hoping I get a chance here!)
2020.06.24 02:43 Jujay2014My partner wants me to move to the states to be with him
Me 41F and my partner 34M have been in a long distance relationship for a while now. Plenty of times we spoke about us (my daughter and I) moving to the states so we can get married and start our lives together. I live in Europe and thinking about moving to the states gives me major anxieties. I have lived in the states before, so it’s not like I don’t know what it’s like, it’s just that I have grown to dislike the country. I don’t mean any disrespect to the Americans reading this post, it’s just my personal opinion that’s all. I have to admit that the past few months influenced my opinion a lot with all the things that happened from the death of Floyd to the common subject of racism and police brutality. My daughter is biracial and I’m worried about exposing her to racism over there. Plus she has a few health issues and requires constant doctor visits and medication, I don’t know how we supposed to afford that. Of course I have spoken to him about it and to him the lack of insurance and racism is normal... well not to me. He doesn’t want to leave the states because his kids live there and their mom wouldn’t let them leave to stay with him in Europe. I absolutely love this man with all my heart and I do want the life with him we speak about so often, but I’m also worried about my child and what kind of life I will expose her to... I honestly don’t know what to do. On top of all that my daughter is special needs and public schools in that city doesn’t cover everything she needs, only private schools do. Am I letting my ifs and worries might ruin my relationship? I have no problem visiting, but I don’t want to live there.
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